Dealing With Church Hurt
Sunday Morning
Pastor Jim Lowe III
Sunday Morning,
10/10/21 (2nd Sunday Message)
{All scriptures are NIV84 unless stated}
Today we talk about something many churches don’t talk about.
We address something many churches don’t want to admit exists.
We are talking about a pain that many believers today
Something we’ve been forced to suppress.
We’re talking about the pain that comes with being a believer.
More specifically in ours and other “churches.”
Today we talk about Church Hurt.
Church Hurt Is Real!
Good Definition:
Church
the harm caused by the church or its members to anyone inside or outside the church.
The harm caused by the church or its members.
Meaning:
The church as a whole.
Or the people who attend that church.
So who can be responsible for church hurt?
Anyone in leadership.
The Pastor
The Elders
The Leadership
The Staff
The Volunteers
Even those who
Does that cover everyone?
Who Can Be Responsible For Church Hurt? Any
Not only can we be dealing with our own church hurt.
We can be responsible for hurting someone else.
Today we talk about this.
We must talk about how serious this is.
This has caused a lot of people to fall out with the church.
They might leave their church and go to another.
They might leave church all together.
They might even leave the faith.
Why?
Because Church Hurt is real.
What Are Some Examples Of Church Hurt?
When we label someone’s struggles as pure disobedience and suggest they
When the church turns their back on a single mom because she got a divorce from her abusive husband.
When the church shames the young woman because she got pregnant.
When a Pastor becomes exposed from some secret sin
These are all examples of church hurt.
This can cause people MANY forms of hurt.
If we’re dealing with it…
If we’re responsible for it to someone else.
Today we can learn from it.
Why Church Hurt Can’t Be Ignored:
We CAN NOT ignore it because it deals with people.
WE are important.
YOU are important.
And for us to grow together…we have to understand what church hurt does.
And how dangerous it can be.
John 10:10
10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have
We’ve heard this scripture.
We know this scripture.
But the answer is here.
The Thief Comes:
To Steal, To Kill, To Destroy:
Many people offer interpretations of what this means.
As long as those
Based on what we know.
We can apply this:
The thief comes to steal our inheritance.
The thief comes to kill us and our futures.
and today:
The Thief Comes To Destroy The Body of Christ
There are many things the enemy comes to do.
One of them is to disrupt anything God wants to do.
He will attack our bodies.
He will attack our minds.
He will do everything he can…to go after what God has established.
One of the best ways to do that…
Is to have us hurting and being hurt by one another.
For example:
If You Ask People Dealing With Church Hurt
One of the things people may say:
“The Church Is Filled With Hypocrites!”
This is ABSOLUTELY true!
We preach against sin, but are full of it.
We want to shame someone for their sin…and we may doing the exact same thing.
We have to work on our message to the people with us.
We are all all SUPPOSED to be walking together.
We’ll Never Be
There
Our Goal As Believers Is To Strive To Be Better Each Day!
Not perfect.
The church can many times mistake that.
We can act so “holier than thou.”
We preach or talk about sin so matter of factly…
Not realizing that WE are trying to deal with our own things.
We can shame someone so easy either to their face or behind their back.
Only because our sin hasn’t been seen yet.
This is how the enemy has tricked us.
The Church Is Supposed To Be A Place Of Growth, Safety and
But many times there is no covering.
The church isn’t doing what its supposed to.
We are not on pedestals!
The Church Is Supposed To Cover - Not Call Out!
Who Are We To Call Out Anyone?
John 8:1-6
But Jesus went to the Mount of Olives. 2 At
Jesus was at the temple courts.
A
The crowd wasn’t just filled with
Who brought her?
The Teachers of the Law
The Pharisees
These people would be considered parts of the church
These people knew the law!
Yet they were ready to kill someone because they were
Verse 6-11
6 They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him. But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. 7 When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them,
The church was ready to kill this woman.
Jesus says let the first person who hasn’t done anything throw the first one.
No one could do anything because they realized they were no better than this woman.
People Will Stay Ready To Throw Stones Until THEIR Sin Is Exposed!
This is one way we hurt so many others.
We throw the rule book at them.
We make them feel like they are terrible people because of their sin.
But Christ is dealing with
This is what the church is supposed to be.
We All Are Flawed People Trying To Do Better
None of us are without sin.
NONE of us are without sin!
Ephesians 2:8-9
8 For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and
We have been saved by grace.
We are saved because God said we are.
The other believer we don’t cover is saved by the same grace that we are!
We Can’t Stop Loving
We are all working to be better Christians.
We have to work to make sure we work hard to not be the cause of Church Hurt for others.
Church Hurt is serious.
It is a big issue with why the Body of Christ isn’t unified.
We keep hurting one another.
This is our responsibility to one another.
We are to Cover, Not Condemn!
For Those Of Us Dealing With Church Hurt:
It’s possible that many of us are still dealing with church hurt.
Many of us HAVE been hurt by
There are many things we may be dealing with.
Ways You Can Tell You May Be Dealing With Church Hurt:
1. If You Don’t Feel Comfortable Going To A Church
- can we blame it on COVID if we go any and everywhere else?
2. If You Are Unwilling
- maybe you’ve been taught false teachings
3. If You Only Come To Church Out Of Obligation
- if you feel uncomfortable serving or helping your church…why?
4. If You Have Been Called Out In A Sin
- has the
If you are dealing with church hurt:
We apologize.
This is not the way God has designed it.
When we try to recover from our church hurt,
We have to remind ourselves that people WILL continue to fail us.
People are
God’s original plan was in the beginning.
Adam and Eve WALKED with God in the garden.
There was no better relationship that existed.
Yet in Genesis 3, they sinned against God.
The first humans.
The perfect relationship.
They failed God.
They failed each other.
Other people falling us is what causes us to hurt.
BUT!!
We believe in a God who can heal and restore.
God Can Heal Every Type Of Hurt - Even Our Church Hurt!
song lyric:
“There Is No Pain Jesus Can’t Heal”
“If You Can Have
Psalm 147:3
3
If our hearts have been hurt from someone else.
We serve a God who can make it all better.
He doesn’t just heal our hearts…he fixes what was done to us.
He binds what hurt us.
You Serve A God Who Can Love All Hurt Away!
Isaiah 57:15
15
Same scripture in the message version.
Isaiah 57:15 (MSG)
A Message from the high and towering God, who lives in Eternity, whose name is Holy:
God says he lives in the high places.
But he also lives in the low places.
You may have been hurt by others.
You might
But the bible says if your spirit has been crushed,
That’s okay - God has a new spirit for you.
He will put that new spirit in you so you can start again.
God sees it as necessary!
Why Does God Want To
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 (NIV)
3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.
We are all supposed to be walking together.
God wants to comfort us so we can then help to comfort others.
No One Is Better Than Anyone - We Are Only Saved By Grace!
God doesn’t just make some of us better.
God makes all of us better!
We are all the same.
Looking at people based on sin is what destroys the body!
We Only Hurt Ourselves When We Don’t Cover One Another!
This is how the body is attacked.
This is how the body is destroyed.
How Do We
Each one of these steps may be some of the hardest things to do.
It depends on how deep the hurt goes.
4 Steps, but talking about 2 today.
Dealing With Church Hurt:
1. We Have To Admit It To Ourselves
- this can be any of us and
- there is no condemning for feeling this way.
- It is what it is.
- we have to be honest to admit if we feel some type of way about God’s church.
- are we allowing an individual or group of people to affect our relationship with
- How about his church?
- Do we harbor resentment towards someone in the church because of something
Dealing With Church Hurt:
2. We Have To Pray For Strength To Give It To God
- It’s not
- Sometimes releasing things means opening wounds.
- The thought of dealing with trauma is never pleasant.
- But God told us if we give it to anyone…give it to him.
Psalm 30:2
2
When you call on God, know he can heal you.
Psalm 103:1-5
1
No matter how deep it goes.
God can fix it.
{Conclusion}
Church hurt is real.
Too many of God’s people are carrying bruises from long ago.
God desires his church to be on one accord.
Remember we have to walk together.
We are all the same.
If we
We serve a God who can love ALL the pain away.
How do we recover?
Dealing With Church Hurt:
1. We Have To Admit It To Ourselves
Dealing With Church Hurt:
2. We Have To Pray For Strength To Give It To God
This week:
Things
1. Remember God’s View That We Are All The Same
2. If We Are Dealing With Church Hurt, God Can Heal It
*If you are needing someone to talk to,
we are here for you.
Guiding Light Church Pastoral Care
(205) 838-1386
Next week, we’ll discuss 2 more ways to deal with church hurt.